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Goodbyes

Goodbyes

By Pam Henderson

“We said goodbye to a dear old friend. And we packed our bags and left. It’s the only way.”

Those decades-old lyrics from the iconic performer Phil Collins played through my head as my family and I said goodbye to a dear old friend recently. No worries – it wasn’t a goodbye to a person. Still, I hesitate to say that it wasn’t a loved one, because it was loved. All 210,000 miles of it were well-loved. It was a goodbye to our 1997 Toyota Camry.

Before you laugh and think we’re completely nuts – because a car doesn’t have emotions and its only true purpose is to get us from Point A to Point B – you may be able to reflect back on emotions that have surfaced when you have had to say goodbye to an object. Maybe you felt emotions swell up when you said goodbye to bachelorhood before your wedding, or when you traded in the sporty car for a minivan, or when your child advanced from a tricycle to training wheels. All of these moments are “rites of passage” that carry us from one chapter of our lives to the next.

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Children and Identity Theft

Children and Identity Theft

By Pam Henderson

With the recent security breach of a major credit bureau, it’s a good time to revisit the topic of identity theft, and how our children may be vulnerable to this insidious cyber crime. The recent hack has been said to affect as many as 1 out of every 2 people with a credit history. So, if you applied for a credit card, a mortgage or person loan, you could be at risk.

Unfortunately, because credit may be checked without one’s knowledge by creditors, landlords or prospective lenders for promotional rates, not every person will know definitively whether or not his or her personal information (including social security numbers, birth dates and drivers’ license numbers) has been compromised by the recent breach. Some financial experts have suggested that anyone with a credit history should assume that he or she has been affected, and to be proactive in checking and protecting one’s credit. While a credit freeze requires the freeze to be lifted every time you apply for a loan or credit card, it minimizes the risk of fraudulent use of yours or your child’s credit.

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It’s Tough Being a Teenager Today

It’s Tough Being a Teenager Today

By Pam Henderson

I have to laugh when I ask my daughter to pick up her shoes, and she says, “I’m exhausted. You don’t know what it’s like to sit in school for seven hours a day.”

Actually, I do know what that’s like. It’s been a few decades, but I still remember school.

In fact, sometimes I still have nightmares about it.

In one scenario, I can’t remember my locker combination. Anyone who recalls those 2 minute passing periods knows that every second of fiddling with the lock takes away precious time from hooking up with friends during a passing period.

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Can’t Wait For

Can’t Wait For

By Pam Henderson

Labor Day marks the unofficial end to summer. While the calendar still gives us three more weeks of the season, the heat and humidity of June and July made me wish it away long ago. I’ve been waiting patiently since February for a snowfall. I can’t wait for winter.

I probably used the term “I can’t wait” more often than I realized. “I can’t wait for the weekend,” “I can’t wait to get back to school,” “I can’t wait for…” Then, one day it all changed for me, thanks to Betty.

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Children and Sweet Moments

Children and Sweet Moments

By Pam Henderson

Memories of a trip to the grocery store with my daughters from more than 14 years ago came flooding back to me this week, thanks to a story my husband shared.

I remember how the moment elapsed. After working all day, I picked up the girls from daycare and took them with me to the grocery store. Had I planned the day more thoughtfully, I wouldn’t have been wearing heels. But in those days, while parenting a colicky 2-year old and a high-spirited 5-year old as my husband and I worked full-time jobs, I barely had time to blink and breathe at the same time, let alone prepare myself with a spare pair of sneakers for after work errands.

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